At the beginning of this year, I wrote Back to Basics . This basically described my plan to take it down a notch; a streamlining of sorts..
Since then I stumbled across the cutest lady on Netflix who was all about this. Marie Kondo describes how everything in your “space” has one purpose and that’s to bring you joy.. OK, I get that.. So where do I start?
First thing Marie tells you is NOT to sort by location but by category.
OK – so what’s bugging me the most right now?
Shoes! I have sooo many and I always wear the same ones (Tieks, in case you are wondering) which I keep in a bin. Right now I don’t know if I wear them because I really do love them or because they are the easiest to get to.
Anyway, here we go..
These are the shoes in ONE of my THREE closets. I sorted and found that I, pretty much, hated most of them. I gave a few to my mom, put a few on Poshmark, and donated the rest… this is all I have left.
Do I feel better? Lil bit.. Question is, where do I go from here?
2019.. another year is behind us.. a brand new one is right before us..
Twenty Five! You are TWENTY-FIVE YEARS OLD! Your dad and I were “children” ourselves when you were born, or at least we felt like it.
The day you were born was probably the scariest day of our lives. Parenthood started by me climbing out the window of your tia Minnie’s house. That, alone, should have been a clue as to the adventure that we were about to go on. One that continues until this very day.
We didn’t have a clue what we were doing, but there you were, eight pounds, eight ounces, and, probably the prettiest baby in the nursery (and I’m not just saying that because I’m your mother, it was true). We held you, we fed you, we slept at the foot of your bassinet until that thing could no longer hold you and fell so we had no choice but to put you in a crib that was on the other side of the room. You would think we had put you in another house the way your dad was carrying on, constantly getting up to check on you.. We weren’t perfect parents, not by a long shot, but we loved you as much as any two people could love another little soul. While we know we made a FEW mistakes, we’d like to think we did a pretty good job. Here you stand before us; one of the most strong-willed, compassionate, intelligent men I have ever known.
And yeah, you may be an adult already but there are still some things you need to know; so here goes: MOM’S WORDS OF WISDOM ON YOUR 25th BIRTHDAY
Everyone needs friends.
I get that you are an independent soul and prefer to have your time to do whatever you want, when you want- EVERYONE needs to have a small, handful of friends they can count on. Find that tribe.. and don’t ever let them go.
Write down your thoughts.
I know you think that we have ZERO things in common but we are much more alike than either one of us cares to admit. So I’m telling you now; write something every day. Even if it’s just what you did that day, write it down. Fears, song lyrics that struck a chord, things that made you smile, random thoughts that popped into your head out of nowhere – write them down. Look back on your notes every now and then and relish in the memory. You are going to have to just trust me on this one..
Family is important.
It still amazes me how different the three of you are from each other. As an only child, I didn’t really understand the dynamics between siblings until I had you guys. As much as I would love to say that we have raised all of you the same, who are we kidding? Not even close… But that’s only because each of you are your own unique person. We’re actually quite proud of your differences, knowing that each of you has a quality unlike the others, but at the end of the day, we are all FAMILY and being a family is so important. So as crazy as we may make you know that we are the only people that’ll support you no matter what. No matter how far away we are, how busy we may be, we, your family will always love you..
And even if you don’t agree that Michael Keaton was the best batman around, I still love you with all of my heart and I always will – whether you like it or not.
Your life is what you make of it.
Last, but not least, this is YOUR life, so make of it what you want! Be a lawyer, be a plumber, own a comic book store – doesn’t matter as long as you are happy with it. There is only one stipulation; if you’re gonna own a comic book store, it HAS to be as cool as the one in the Big Bang Theory, otherwise, be a lawyer.
I hope your day continues to be a great one and I hope your love of pancakes never, ever goes away!
Happy Happy Birthday, Derek. We Love you to the moon and back!
One of the first assignments I was given when I first decided to go down the Mass Comm road was to create a blog. At first, it was an assignment, but after a while, it grew on me and I decided to keep it up. I even went as far as buying the domain and creating other social media accounts tied to it. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I LOVED everything about social media – and I do mean all of it. In no way does that “define” me but that, and taking pictures, is a HUGE part of who I am.
It’s amazing how things change. One day, I was a wife and a mom and THAT defined me, then before you know it, im not “just” a mom anymore; as they have grown and left and I have to find new things for myself. It really is a very strange transition.
Luckily, I managed to get through it, relatively unscathed, and now here I am.
My family is still my #1 motivator but now its me I work on and myself I try to do for.. the rest you can read here.. (About Me)
Top 5 Places to Visit
I love to travel… I will go anywhere, anytime – all I need is a few minutes notice and I will be packed and sitting by the curb waiting for someone, anyone to pick me up.
I am lucky enough to say that I have been to some pretty amazing places.
My five most favorite are as follows:
There are a TON of monuments to see in DC but everyone said that you could not go there without seeing The White House so we did.. and it was.. well.. white.. Ok, so I’m from Texas and we have HUGE houses here.. so I really wasn’t all that impressed.
St Louis, Missouri
I became quite the tourist while in St. Louis.. One of my favorite places I think you should check out if you are ever in the area is the Budweiser Brewery. They give you free beer. Do I really need to say more?
Mexico City, MX
Mexico City, actually Mexico, in general, has gotten a bad rap lately with all of this bad press regarding safety. The truth is; it’s a BEAUTIFUL place to visit and one of my absolute favorites. Just like anywhere else, you need to be aware of your surroundings, you need to remain vigilant at all times, but that’s just common sense. The city itself – stunning! The architecture, the people, THE FOOD – absolute best!
New York City
What is there NOT to say about NYC? It’s an amazing place that has a little something for everyone. My last visit there was with my daughter during a time she was obsessed with Gossip Girls so our entire trip consisted of all things GG. We stayed at the Empire Hotel, we visited the spots in Central Park the cast frequented, we basically reenacted an entire season – and I LOVED every single second of it! You can read more about it on my blog here.. Gossip Girls Take on NYC
I like to call this place the “Adult Disneyland”. For me, it is, literally, the happiest place on earth. I was JUST there this past weekend and although I have been there soooo many times, I loved just as much as I always do.
There are so many new activities now that extend so far beyond the gambling and drinking; though, who are we kidding, that’s still why I go but, if you should choose to make it a family trip, rest assured, there is PLENTY for people of all ages to do. There are shows and exhibits and “experiences” such as the High Roller, and shopping! The shopping there is THE BEST! There are restaurant galore- and the shopping! Wait, I think I already mentioned that!
Holy crap! YOU ARE TWENTY YEARS OLD! How did that happen? WHEN did it happen? Wasn’t it just the other day we were getting you ready for your first dance recital?
You have always been more mature and wiser than your years so there isn’t a whole lot for me to tell you. If I remember correctly, at this time I was telling the boys not to get too ahead of themselves, to slow down and enjoy the view, not to drink too much; you know, typical college student stuff. But that isn’t you at all. A part of me thanks GOD every single day for this and the other part wonders where the heck you came from because that clearly isn’t anything you learned from me or dad.
And yes, I desperately tried to refrain from sharing my annual Words of Wisdom but I failed miserably so the tradition continues…
MOM’S WORDS OF WISDOM ON YOUR 20TH BIRTHDAY
*Quality over quantity
Just like your brother you are so blessed to have a great group of friends that have been there through it all. Cherish them, love them, tolerate the growing pains you may all be suffering and get through them together; just like you have gotten through everything else.
*Self-care is key
Always make time for yourself. You can’t take care of all of your very important school obligations if you don’t take care of yourself first. This will apply when you get a job, have a husband and a house to run, have kids…. Whatever stage you may be in life ALWAYS make sure you leave a little “me time” in there and don’t EVER feel bad about it. EVER.
*Counting calories isn’t worth it
Being healthy is important but counting calories is just a waste of time and energy. Try and eat right, stay active, and you will be fine.. you managed to get through your first year and a half of college without adding an ounce; I think you’re safe..
*Makeup isn’t always necessary, but sometimes it is
You are beautiful inside and out (of course, I’m your mother so I’m sorta biased but whatever, it counts). You don’t always have to wear a ton of makeup. It’s ok to be natural.. SOMETIMES! There are times when you do. When you feel your best, you reflect the very best. Just make sure you take care of your skin.. don’t wait till your 40’s to figure that out like I did.
We never regret the risks we take, only the ones we didn’t. Sure, it could turn out to be a mistake of ginormous proportions, but oh well… life will go on… I promise.
*Follow your passions
You’re going to be in the workforce for quite a while so find something you’re passionate about. Go into a field you love no matter what the pay is. If you enjoy what you do, money won’t matter. I still believe you would LOVE the world of plastic surgery – just saying.
*Be open minded
We live in a diverse, ever-changing, always evolving world. Be open-minded about everything. Learn as much as you can from the people around you, especially the ones who think differently than you do. Appreciate the differences, don’t judge them.
*Pay attention to the political issues
Please don’t become one of those people who can speak of nothing other than politics but pay enough attention to the issues so that if/when you enter into that sort of conversation, you give an educated, well-informed opinion. And if you should come across someone who’s opinions are in complete contrast to yours (and you will) don’t be ugly about it… listen to their views, try and understand where they may be coming from, stand your ground, and vote your conscience. You don’t always have to agree with everyone’s opinions in order to remain friends but you do have to respect them.
While we may not be there to celebrate with you physically, know that our hearts are with you every second of every day; especially today.
Have an amazing day, my baby! Mom and Dad love you to the moon and back!
For the last several years I have provided my children my “words of wisdom” on every birthday, a tradition I promised them I would stop. All I can say is; “I tried.”
Dylan, 23 years old – I can’t even believe it. It seems like just yesterday we were sitting in your very messy room learning our colors. Luckily, you learned them because, here you are, a college graduate – about to enter “the real world”.
In my usual fashion, there are just a couple things I think you should know as you do so:
* Friends will come and friends will go.
You have been blessed to still have your oldest friends around. Cherish that; remind yourself often what a blessing that truly is. But don’t forget to make some room for new people along the way. Everyone comes into your life for one reason or another, being a real adult is, not only identifying the reason but figuring out which ones to walk away from.
* Always say yes to dessert
If I need to explain this to you then I clearly have not done my job as a parent.
* Who you were in high school isn’t really all that important
When I was in high school, I was told often to appreciate it because “those are the best years of your life” – and if I remember correctly, I told you the exact same thing. But let me tell you – that is SO NOT TRUE … the best year is the one you are in RIGHT NOW, and the one after that, and the one after that.. see where I am going with this?
* Others’ opinions of you don’t matter
Remember that Dr. Seuss quote; “those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter” … well, Dr. Seuss is a freaking genius.
* Get off your phone
It’s ok to look up every now and then… that thing isn’t going anywhere… at least that’s what I’ve heard… (I need to work on this one too).
* Travel, travel, travel
The saying goes “when you’re young you have the time and energy to travel, but not enough money, and then when you get older you have enough money and time, but not enough energy” – so travel as often as you can while you still have that adventurous spirit and unlimited energy in you. The money will figure itself out… (it’s called points – use them!)
* Learn how to cook
Yes, I know I only know how to make a handful of dishes, no need to remind me, but this is EXACTLY why I tell you this.. Trust me, you don’t want to have to eat frozen dinners and canned ravioli the rest of your life. You should at least know the basics, but feel free to explore the cooking world, there’s so much to learn and Pinterest makes it look so easy!
BTW: I am willing to be a taste tester any time… all you gotta do is call. I can be there in 5 hours or less.
* Changing your mind is acceptable
From something as small as the shoes you want to wear or the movie you want to watch to something as important as the career you choose to follow; whatever it is, changing your mind is not only acceptable, it’s encouraged. Try it all – then decide – and then decide again if you feel the need.
* Don’t get too distracted.
Watch the video; you’ll see what I am talking about…
*You’re still our baby; I don’t care how old you are or you THINK you are; you are and will always be my baby – and there is NOTHING you can do about it.
I hope you had an AMAZING day… remember that we love you to the moon and back!
As the oldest living student in the world; class assignment that was UBER hard for me.. https://soundcloud.com/mirta-maciel-flores/bday-audio-love